That is a ridiculous question. That people even ask it shows how little regard our society has for respect and courtesy.
I’ll admit, I used to consider myself a feminist.
I’d get all offended if a guy opened a door for me.
I finally realized some years ago that I’m really not a feminist, just an opportunist. I had this realization (okay, someone said it to me) when I was honest enough to admit that I would totally play the damsel in distress in order to get what I wanted (i.e. getting a guy to do stuff for me).
From there I started to gain a more mature understanding of chivalry. (Just goes to show, that truth must begin with being honest with oneself.)
The idea that chivalry is sexism towards women is based on pride, and not the good kind. Some people (see link below) assert that these small acts of kindness, like carrying a bag for a woman, somehow implies that she can’t do it. So feminist women want to do it just to prove they can. That is just plain stubbornness, and there is no virtue in that. It can even be rude. If someone does something nice for you, why rebuff and/or berate them?
If anything, chivalry is sexist toward men! It is them, after all, who must go out of their way to show courtesy. They are the ones who open the doors, carry the bags, and are left standing when there are no more chairs. True gentlemen are self-sacrificing. They sacrifice their own comfort for the comfort of others. Imagine how much nicer the world would be if more people were like that.
Doing something nice for someone else doesn’t imply that you think they can’t do it themselves. Helping someone shows that you care. It might be a general feeling of goodwill or consideration for that particular person. Either way, a kind gesture should be received in the spirit in which it is given. Life is more pleasant that way.
I know several men who deserve the title of “gentleman.” They are respectful, helpful, and considerate. If I needed something, they would help. It feels really good to be around them. I feel valued and cared for. Why wouldn’t I want to be treated that way?
There are plenty of real grievances in the world. We don’t need to add more strife and contention by manufacturing petty ones.
I was partly inspired by this ridiculous article:
What do you think of chivalry? Is is dead? Is it sexist? Does it matter? Share your thoughts in the comments below!